Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
(Robert Frost, The Road Not Taken, 1920)
Life teaches us through experiences. Sometimes in life, we don’t always get what we want, or realize the plans that we ‘ve already arranged. However, every step we choose always brings wisdom. One point that we should remember is that our life is made up of a series of choices that bear a consequence.
The consequences then lead us to learn. We learn how to tackle a problem, we learn how to be patient, we learn how to be realistic instead of too idealistic, and in the end, we conclude that the bigger the goal, the bigger the consequence; the bigger the risk, the bigger the reward. After all, maturity is about how we can take full responsibility for the consequences that we receive, and stop blaming others for the results.
When we get older, we realize that life is about making a decision. Age talks, choices talk as well. They go hand in hand. The choices will be more varied and complicated when we get older, unlike when we were a child, we can ask our parents which one’s the best. The choice is merely like, ”Which dresses do you like?”, or “Which dress I should wear now?” However, when we grow older, we can rely on others forever, because the question is not only about the things that we use temporarily, but it’s about a path that will create another path. A path of our life, a path that will be brought us until the end of our life. We are the one who control our life.
In the middle of process, of course we will find many challenges to ride. We find that to reach our dream or to create a big leap, we can’t start from a big step, but a small step instead. We also find that we can’t only rely on ourselves because there is “an invisible hand playing” around our own life, the Power that easily changes everything. We never know what will happen tomorrow, so we should take control of our choice.
Sometimes we make minor mistake when we choose. We get despair and hopeless for the incorrect choice. However, the process actually can make us stronger and of course we get better understanding to fix the problem.
David and Bruce McArthur, in their book titled The Intelligent Heart: Transform Your Life With the Laws of Love said “Many people are afraid to forgive because they feel they must remember the wrong or they will not learn from it. The opposite is true. Through forgiveness, the wrong is released from its emotional stranglehold on us so that we can learn from it. Through the power and intelligence of the heart, the release of forgiveness brings expanded intelligence to work with the situation more effectively”.
Therefore, one of the important things in life is that we have to forgive our mistakes, our incorrect choice in the past, no matter how we berate the misdeeds (AS)